I've said before and I'll say it again; I love, love. Although this year I don't have a boo (lol), I was still determined to have a great Valentine's Day and that I did. I have no doubt that love will find me, but at the same time I'm not in a huge rush. I got a bit of a late start today so I was unable to pick me up some tulips but you better believe I will get some before the weekend is out!!! I spent the latter part of the day with a friend enjoying mani's and Pedi's and light, very light shopping lol. I decided to put the picture above so that we all remember exactly what love is, in spite of the teddy bears, chocolates, and flowers. How did you enjoy your Valentine's Day?
Thursday, February 14, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Missing You...
7 years ago today I lost my mom in a car accident and at the same time, loss a piece of me. Words can never explain the amount of hurt, anger, and grief you feel losing a parent; especially at such a young age. There isn't one day that goes by that I don't miss her, long to see her face and hear her voice. I always thought that at the age of 30 we'd be able to have some sort of friendship so to speak. All I have are the memories and pictures that I hold on to dearly. Luckily for me I have always had very vivid dreams and my mom comes to see me at just the right time. The dreams are sooo distinct and I feel as if she's with me because we always speak of what's happening currently. They honestly give me peace and solace. If I could be granted one wish, it would definitely be to go back in time and relive a few moments with my mom. From a Christian point of view, my dreams remind me that He will never leave me nor forsake me.
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Monday, February 11, 2013
If I Was Your Boyfriend...
As we near Valentine's Day, I am still on the hunt for the perfect boyfriend. I don't I'll ever find that, so let's just say I'm on the hunt for the perfect pair of boyfriend jeans. On two separate occasions, I tried on Old Navy's version of boyfriend jeans; after the initial fit I thought I'd found the perfect pair. It wasn't until the next visit that I realized they had more of a boxy fit around the waist and not the actual lean, slightly baggy look. However, I did like the fact that Old Navy offered about 5 different washes available. But somehow, the Old Navy BF jeans remind me of ole school capris.
Although I should be shop less in Virginia, I just had to go to the mall (for concealer) and why not stop in H&M. As soon as I walked in, I saw boyfriend jeans on display as if they new I were coming in for them. I tried them on and lo and behold a perfect fit. I mean they looked great on me. Since I'm ballin on a nonexistent budget, I passed them buy. But I definitely have to go get them soon, and the fact that there's a 30% off coupon right now make them alluring.
I have one more trick up my sleeve in order to find the perfect pair of jeans and that's SalVal (aka Salvation Army). I think that on Wednesday, which is also discount day I'm going to look for a pair of jeans that I can turn into boyfriend jeans.
Since I am still on the hunt for the perfect pair of Boyfriend Jeans let me know where you found your perfect mate.
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Wait Til I Get My Money Right...
I'm not sure if I'd classify myself as a shopaholic per se... but something about new items with attractive packaging ALWAYS lure me in. Now that I'm a statistic within the realms of the unemployed; I-want-EVERYTHING. Just today I see that tickets go on sale for my favorite artist (Erykah Badu) tomorrow and I'd be lying if I stated that I'm not going lol. Plus, my girl crush (Rhianna) is performing in April and I want to be somewhere in the vicinity. I wish I could say that my list of 'wants' stop there at entertainment but I cant.
Just yesterday, I saw a new comforter set that would be perfect for the King and I. It's mint green, ruffled and has a sequin accent pillow. Let's not even mention the fact that my part time job (which happens to be my only job at the moment) is in the mall; and I literally have to force myself to stay within the 4 corners of the store. I mean the smell of the food, the sale signs, and those freaking coupons have me feeling like Pookie from New Jack City; they just keep calling me.
I could go on and on, however I won't. This time is teaching me that less is more, work with what you have, save for a rainy day and any other one of those sayings that signify you're broke lol. But wait, just wait til I get my money right!!!
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Friday, February 1, 2013
National Wear Red Day
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Yay, its February and you know what that means; the month dedicated to love and Black History Month. Not only that, today is a day dedicated in fighting against heart disease in women by wearing red. Let me be the first to say I am not too fond of red, but today Pink Goes Red. Heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women. Each year heart disease takes the life 1 in 3 women. Heart disease is very important to me because it is a very serious health issue in my own family as well as African Americans in general.
In honor of National Wear Red Day, my sorority sisters met up to have red mani's and Pedi's. It was a great time to bond and spread awareness.
My Sorority sisters and I after our mani's and Pedi's
Although I'm not a fan of red I LOVED this OPI color and my FAB cocktail ring
My dresscode at work is ALL black but I bucked the system and put on these shoes to show my support #Healthyhearts
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Encourage Yourself!!!
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I promise you guys that this will not turn into an employment or better yet an unemployment blog lol. Luckily, I'm a lifestyle blogger which means I am not limited on what I can speak about. With that being said, losing my job has been a bit discouraging. Sometimes I cry for no reason, or maybe there is a reason... I'm jobless, feel as if I don't have a sense of security, etc. Honestly, I am afraid of the unknown. I know that my previous job wasn't my career per se; but I am afraid of not being in control, especially that which concerns my finances, afraid that I may just have to ask someone for help. Although I haven't been in this particular situation before, I have been in several other situations where I absolutely had no control of the outcome. I can recount many a times where I had to lean not on my own understanding, but to something greater than that. I had to truly place my faith in the one above and trust totally, that everything was meant for my good even when it seemed sooo bad. And at times, when I didn't have anyone to talk to (by choice) I simply had to encourage myself.
I haven't yet responded to the uplifting comments left on the post where I disclosed I was laid off, but I am grateful for the kind words and encouragement (and yes I'm going to respond after this, lol). A few of you reading this may be in the same situation that I'm in, laid off; or you may be in another situation where you feel afraid, lonely, or simply discouraged. For me, inspirational music always lifts my spirit so I wanted to leave you with a few songs to encourage yourself.
1. Encourage Yourself- Donald Lawrence
2. Smile- Kirk Franklin
3. Turning Around For Me- VaShaun Mitchell
4. Be Still- Yolanda Adams
5. God Believes In You- Ted Winn
6. That's When He Blessed Me- LA Mass Choir
7. The Best Is Yet To Come- Donald Lawence
8. It's About Time For A Miracle- Beverly Crawford
9. Jesus Will- Anita Wilson
10. The Best Is Yet To Come- Bishop Paul Morton
11. What's Coming Is Better- Deon Kipping
I hope those songs help you out a bit. In regard to my job loss I've been doing a prayer recipe from the Prayer Cookbook. If your interested in it send me you e-mail address and I'll send it to you. Be encouraged!!!
I promise you guys that this will not turn into an employment or better yet an unemployment blog lol. Luckily, I'm a lifestyle blogger which means I am not limited on what I can speak about. With that being said, losing my job has been a bit discouraging. Sometimes I cry for no reason, or maybe there is a reason... I'm jobless, feel as if I don't have a sense of security, etc. Honestly, I am afraid of the unknown. I know that my previous job wasn't my career per se; but I am afraid of not being in control, especially that which concerns my finances, afraid that I may just have to ask someone for help. Although I haven't been in this particular situation before, I have been in several other situations where I absolutely had no control of the outcome. I can recount many a times where I had to lean not on my own understanding, but to something greater than that. I had to truly place my faith in the one above and trust totally, that everything was meant for my good even when it seemed sooo bad. And at times, when I didn't have anyone to talk to (by choice) I simply had to encourage myself.
I haven't yet responded to the uplifting comments left on the post where I disclosed I was laid off, but I am grateful for the kind words and encouragement (and yes I'm going to respond after this, lol). A few of you reading this may be in the same situation that I'm in, laid off; or you may be in another situation where you feel afraid, lonely, or simply discouraged. For me, inspirational music always lifts my spirit so I wanted to leave you with a few songs to encourage yourself.
1. Encourage Yourself- Donald Lawrence
2. Smile- Kirk Franklin
3. Turning Around For Me- VaShaun Mitchell
4. Be Still- Yolanda Adams
5. God Believes In You- Ted Winn
6. That's When He Blessed Me- LA Mass Choir
7. The Best Is Yet To Come- Donald Lawence
8. It's About Time For A Miracle- Beverly Crawford
9. Jesus Will- Anita Wilson
10. The Best Is Yet To Come- Bishop Paul Morton
11. What's Coming Is Better- Deon Kipping
I hope those songs help you out a bit. In regard to my job loss I've been doing a prayer recipe from the Prayer Cookbook. If your interested in it send me you e-mail address and I'll send it to you. Be encouraged!!!
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Wednesday, January 30, 2013
Finding a job has become my job...
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Can I just say I hate looking for a job. Don't get me wrong, I know exactly what I have to do (to get a job); apply, apply, apply. In a perfect world (that which exists only in my head) jobs would just fall from above like manna and bestow the perfect occupation upon us. I mean... my job right now is applying to jobs. And yes, it is definitely a job. You may ask, 'why am I complaining'. I don't that I don't have to deal with traffic, can actually work in my pj's, and I even have the luxury of starting and ending when I like. However, I feel like I type the same thing over and over again. I mean isn't there some sort of universal system that can assist with the same repetitive generic questions? Or why have an option to upload a resume and not have an auto-fill option? Why even ask my ethnicity, race, or gender if I don't really have to disclose it? *Heavy Sigh* The joys of finding a job, and the search continues...
Can I just say I hate looking for a job. Don't get me wrong, I know exactly what I have to do (to get a job); apply, apply, apply. In a perfect world (that which exists only in my head) jobs would just fall from above like manna and bestow the perfect occupation upon us. I mean... my job right now is applying to jobs. And yes, it is definitely a job. You may ask, 'why am I complaining'. I don't that I don't have to deal with traffic, can actually work in my pj's, and I even have the luxury of starting and ending when I like. However, I feel like I type the same thing over and over again. I mean isn't there some sort of universal system that can assist with the same repetitive generic questions? Or why have an option to upload a resume and not have an auto-fill option? Why even ask my ethnicity, race, or gender if I don't really have to disclose it? *Heavy Sigh* The joys of finding a job, and the search continues...
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Friday, January 25, 2013
When One Door Closes...
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A week ago today, I became a statistic. Yes, I received the white envelope and I was told that my job after 4 1/2 years was over. Just like that, I was laid off. The moment was very bittersweet. I worked in a position for 3 plus years and disliked every.moment.of.it. However, I'd rather be employed looking for employment, than unemployed looking for employment.
I am sooo unsure of my next move. I worked a job for sooo long knowing that it would not evolve into a career with a 401K or tuition reimbursement. I am now praying for direction because I honestly have no clue. My lease is up in about 3 months so I am totally open to the idea of relocating. I am also flirting with the idea of finishing my Master's but then again a part of me isn't really into that either. I wish there was just an easy button I could press that would just make everything better in that area *heavy sigh*. Please look forward to more post on operation find me ajob career. And if you're reading this and you happen to be a career coach please inbox me.
Luckily, I have my side hustle and was able to pick up more hours there. Hopefully this break will also allow me to blog a bit more (I'd be happy if that became my job #writethevision).
A week ago today, I became a statistic. Yes, I received the white envelope and I was told that my job after 4 1/2 years was over. Just like that, I was laid off. The moment was very bittersweet. I worked in a position for 3 plus years and disliked every.moment.of.it. However, I'd rather be employed looking for employment, than unemployed looking for employment.
I am sooo unsure of my next move. I worked a job for sooo long knowing that it would not evolve into a career with a 401K or tuition reimbursement. I am now praying for direction because I honestly have no clue. My lease is up in about 3 months so I am totally open to the idea of relocating. I am also flirting with the idea of finishing my Master's but then again a part of me isn't really into that either. I wish there was just an easy button I could press that would just make everything better in that area *heavy sigh*. Please look forward to more post on operation find me a
Luckily, I have my side hustle and was able to pick up more hours there. Hopefully this break will also allow me to blog a bit more (I'd be happy if that became my job #writethevision).
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Thursday, January 17, 2013
Hair We Go Again...
I haven’t posted about hair in quite some time, if ever. But recently my inbox has been full of questions regarding my natural hair, what are my regimen, and any recommendations. So I thought to myself, why not just blog about it. This is handbags, hair, and heels, right? Let me put this disclaimer out there… I do not know it all, I am not a hair care professional, this is simply what works for me.
This is a straw set, looked like I was natural
My decision to go natural was simple. 6 years ago while in Jamaica I decided that I wasn’t going to get a perm again. I don’t know what person or reason prompted the decision, but I wanted to wear an afro. As you know from a previous post, the 70s has ALWAYS been my era of choice; the music, the fashion, and of course the hair. For me doing the ‘big chop’ (cutting the perm out) was not an option. I am known for wearing long, jet black, straight hair that swings with the beat of my hips (lmao, couldn’t resist that insert). So me going natural was a totally different story in regard to my family not agreeing with the choice. Yes, I did endure the negative, but at this point; most of my family, if not all are natural by either choice or force (from over processing). I grew my hair out with the assistance of my beautician and with a little trial and error. I mostly wore my hair straight in the begining and sometimes I rocked a straw set (totally time consuming). She would cut an inch off each time I was in the chair. One day I woke up and my hair was see thru lol, that was when we knew that all of the permed ends had to be cut. My beautician explained this as the line of demarcation, the permed hair was weighing down the natural hair (or vice versa, I can’t really remember). After the permed ends were cut; my hair had grown enough to have a bob. To be honest, I didn’t actually learn to do my own hair until I moved to Virginia in 2007. In Georgia, I had two stylists. One would straighten my hair and the other would do different types of natural styles. I came to Virginia with a quick weave, I.Am.Not.A.Weave.Girl. Weave just never works out the way I want it to. When I took it out I had no clue what to do. My hair was a ratchet mess!!! At that time there wasn’t a lot of information on natural hair, but the internet and YouTube became my new besties. I also joined meet up groups and met women who were able to assist me. Let me not forget to let you know that I’ve had my share of BAD salon experiences and documented those on my yelp page (except for one salon because it was owned by an AKA).
Fast forward to almost 7 years later, I think that I can breathe a sigh of relief and say I know my hair. I am a little sketchy on which products to use when wearing it straight, but I know the process of getting my hair straight, silky, and shiny. Long gone are the days that I sit in a chair aggravated and silent to the fact that someone is doing my hair incorrectly. I reserve the right to walk the hell out; with my hair attached to my scalp, money in my pocket, and my precious time to write a yelp post on the negative experience. Once again, this is what works for me, use it as you please, but you may not get the same results as I’ve had.
This is a 2 strand twist out
I know that a lot of people don’t like to categorize their hair type but I think that helps in regard to what products will work best for you. For me, my hair type is 3c around the edges and the middle is 4a. That just means that my edges have a softer looser curl pattern and if I straighten it’ll be easier for me to get heat damage there. As for the middle of my head, the hair is super strong and coily lol. I found out just last year that washing my hair in sections cuts down the styling time tremendously. I part in four separate but not equal sections; shampoo and condition, detangle and twist it. I repeat this until I’m done. I also rinse the conditioner out, detangle again and twist and clip it up. I definitely recommend a package of clips for this because if you have thick hair as I do, they will break on you. I don’t have a staple shampoo or conditioner per se; but I’ve used the Herbal Essence Hello Hydration (shampoo and conditioner) repeatedly. I really want to try the line with honey next. I hate to say this, but I don't wash my hair as often as one should lol, sometimes once or twice a month. If you follow me on Instagram (yes that’s a plug to follow me), I usually document my wash days and the products I’m using. I use a leave in conditioner by Kinky Curly-Knot Today (Target or Whole Foods), that helps me detangle my hair. If I don't use that, I use The Bodifier by Talijah Waajid (beauty supply store). The Bodifier is a great moisturizer and has a tiny amount of protein in it. Although, it is a mist; the consistency is a bit too thick to just spray on daily (it needs to be rubbed in). If my hair is extremely dry, after I washed it (before the Knot Today) I'll spray in my mixture of glycerin and water. I get the glycerin from the beauty supply, the brand is Africare. I don't know the exact measurements. Play around with it, too much and it’ll be too sticky; not enough and you won’t see the effect. Glycerin is a humectant that'll draw moisture from the air so that really helps. I’ve heard that some people can’t use glycerin, but it’s worth the try. I also use Juices and Berries from Oyin (this is my FAV product) as a refreshing mist; it smells GREAT and is also a humectant so it helps with moisturizing. I usually use this to refresh my twist out on day 3 or so. My styling aides are Shea butter (from the beauty supply store) and sometimes I'll use Whipped Pudding from Oyin (www.oyinhandmade.com). I use those to twist my hair with. You may have noticed that I don’t use products with Olive Oil; my hair absolutely HATES it. I don’t buy anything with that as an ingredient. After twisting, you can use a bit of coconut oil on the ends to seal in the moisture. I use Organic Root Stimulator Nature’s Shine, its a spray formula. This product will also solidify if the temperature is below 64 degrees. I have an old video on my YouTube channel in regard to the way that I twist. I actually just use the method that they use when they do Senegalese twist. My YouTube channel is Akakristin, I haven't updated it in a while but the video is titled, Twist while Twisting. In regard to gel, I do use gel to slick those edges down. My gel of choice is Fantasia Blue gel, this formula is for color treated hair but it’s what worked for me when I was a blonde and continues to work today. What I learned firsthand, is that natural hair/styles are going to be trial and error.
In case of a bad hair day, Turban Power
Although those are my go to products, I’ve been trying to use the products sent to me from Curlbox since I get a box of goodies each month. By the way they are going to open membership on the 19th at 3 pm. Curlbox is a great way to try new products at only $20 a month. If you're interested you have to be online at 3 because they sell out super quick. As much as you don't want to be a 'product junkie' you may become one because you have to figure out what works for your hair. Currently I am at bra strap length and my goal is to reach waist strap length by October (we’ll see). I hope this post is helpful, I don’t do anything major to my hair, and this works for me. Feel free to ask questions and leave me tips on what works for you.
My hair currently
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
Happy Founders' Day!!!
Screaming from the top of my lungs, Happy 105th Founders' Day to the first, finest, most illustrious, often imitated but NEVER duplicated ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. If you didn't pledge AKA, what you pledged for, I don't know!!!
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