Sunday, July 27, 2008

Interracial Dating and the like....


                                                         


So one of my coworkers and I had a  conversation on why he doesn't date black women. Actually, it didn't start out like that, it started by me asking if he dated white women. And his reply was yes, and I said, I figured. He got offended but I felt like me saying "I Figured" wasn't an offensive phrase. I said it based on some of the information he told me previously, as well as his attitude. Personally, I respect anyone's choice on that matter, too me he took it a step further when he said "that's why I don't date black women, because of their attitude". Once again, I'm cool with you dating whomever, but to make a statement that you don't date within your own race or that you'd rather not, seems a little suspect to me. One of his claims was that they/we have the "Black Woman's Attitude" (BWA), which includes drama, arguing, and complaining. I explained to him that that's not all black women, and maybe the one's with BWA have it because of the (BMB) the "Black Man Bullshit", we deal with constantly. I do believe that we as black women we are prideful, not arrogant, we would like too compromise and not settle, however we settle for the BMB, hoping to be the strong black woman he needs. I wonder what type of backlash we would receive if we took the same attitude of some black men who prefer to date outside of their race. I believe the days are gone where interracial dating is totally unacceptable, however I find it ignorant to rule out one particular race for whatever reason, especially that of your own.

5 comments:

Eb the Celeb said...

In a case like this I say all power to him and its filtering out the weak. If that's his only reason for not dating a black woman than he is weak and has some serious control issues that only a white woman would be willing to put up with. So his loss.

SimplyComplex said...

Men who think and act that way are so unattractive and they don't even know it.
Most of us wouldn't want to deal with him anyway...

Sweetin said...

This is just a "man" that can't deal with the power of a Black woman. HE seems to be one that wants someone that is submissive and will not challenge him in anyway. Let him stay with the white woman, because he probably wouldn't last with a black woman anyway!

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

got to have me a sister folk - my bad

Raven said...

Why do "they" always use that as the excuse...the attitude? Is that code for I can't handle a woman calling me on my BS...so I get one that won't bother me at all? It took me years to conclude that men like that are full of self hate. I agree with the first comment...it is his loss.