



I've been M.i.A for about the whole month because I was taking time off reflecting. It was a year ago on the 1st that I moved to the DMV, I remember it like yesterday. Since that time so much has changed... I've learned some of the hottest malls, had about 4 jobs, and met many people. I've dealt with the many woes of living in the country, adapting to my "vegetarian lifestyle", and the whole concept of traffic.

So one of my coworkers and I had a conversation on why he doesn't date black women. Actually, it didn't start out like that, it started by me asking if he dated white women. And his reply was yes, and I said, I figured. He got offended but I felt like me saying "I Figured" wasn't an offensive phrase. I said it based on some of the information he told me previously, as well as his attitude. Personally, I respect anyone's choice on that matter, too me he took it a step further when he said "that's why I don't date black women, because of their attitude". Once again, I'm cool with you dating whomever, but to make a statement that you don't date within your own race or that you'd rather not, seems a little suspect to me. One of his claims was that they/we have the "Black Woman's Attitude" (BWA), which includes drama, arguing, and complaining. I explained to him that that's not all black women, and maybe the one's with BWA have it because of the (BMB) the "Black Man Bullshit", we deal with constantly. I do believe that we as black women we are prideful, not arrogant, we would like too compromise and not settle, however we settle for the BMB, hoping to be the strong black woman he needs. I wonder what type of backlash we would receive if we took the same attitude of some black men who prefer to date outside of their race. I believe the days are gone where interracial dating is totally unacceptable, however I find it ignorant to rule out one particular race for whatever reason, especially that of your own.

Today was the first segment of Black in America, and if you missed it, please stay tuned tomorrow. Today focused on the Black Woman in every aspect. This documentary really made you think as a black person, so I really wonder what was the opinion of other races. There are so many elements that we as black women deal with on a daily basis and to break it down, it really shows our strength and tenacity.
Another particular feature that stood out to me was the tracing of our roots. So many of us are off springs of slave masters and we don't even know it. It stood out to me because as a middle school student one of my assignments was to trace back my roots. The furthest I got was my Great-Grandfathers father was a white man and his mother was a black woman. In the area where I grew up there are caucasian people that share the same last name as I, and I'm sure there is a connection somewhere along the line. Tracing and knowing my roots is something that I find very interesting and may dig a little deeper because it opens up so many doors in the future just by knowing. You really wouldn't want to marry your cousin, would you LOL!!! As a black person I am sometime in awe of other races who have so much knowledge on their family history as well as culture. I think this is one area where the black community is lacking because of the "unspoken or unknown" tales of our families past as well as heritage. Our ancestors were taken from an area that was deeply rooted in heritage, and because of that I believe there is some sort of disconnect with us blacks that were born here in America. We classify ourselves as blacks and sometimes African Americans but not really taking the "african" piece into consideration, hence, disconnect from our heritage and true blood line.
I think that this documentary serves as a milestone in a pivotal time in black america. I hope that tomorrow is just as informative and interesting as today.
What are your opinions of the show if you watched it? What stood out the most? Can you relate to the areas that the documentary focused on?

![]() You are also a keeper of knowledge - meaning you don't spill secrets or spread gossip. People sometimes think you're snobby or aloof, but you're just too deep in thought to pay attention to them. You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something. You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense. You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun. You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing. You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long. You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start. You are the total package - suave, sexy, smart, and strong. You have the whole world under your spell, and you can influence almost everyone you know. You don't always resist your urges to crush the weak. Just remember, they don't have as much going for them as you do. You are a seeker. You often find yourself restless - and you have a lot of questions about life. You tend to travel often, to fairly random locations. You're most comfortable when you're far away from home. You are quite passionate and easily tempted. Your impulses sometimes get you into trouble. You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people. You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts. You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals. |


So I had the pleasure of spending a boring Saturday watching How She Moves. Let's just say I am so happy I didn't waste my $9.00 by seeing this at the movies. After 20 minutes I didn't know if the chic was in high school or what... the movie was just scattered!!! As a former stepper, I didn't feel like this was true stepping just a Bootleg version. I was also hesitant to see Stomp The Yard because I think the media capitalizes off of Black America enough, then off of my beloved HBCU's... that's another realm. Take our uniqueness and creativity, but not support our educational endeavors (okay off subject and on my soapbox). But Stomp The Yard was actually good, The Way She Moves is a complete mockery of it. What was up with MTV, this movie is as low budget as it gets. The music is way louder than the the actors speaking!!! I'll say it for everyone... NO More Dance Movies PLEASE!!!



Ever since the days of Apple Tree I knew we were going to forever have a connection!!! I have absolutely no idea of what I'm wearing but of course I post a pic with my review of this wonderful occasion.
MY BEST OF BADU WOULD INCLUDE:
1. OTHER SIDE OF THE GAME
2. NEXT LIFETIME
3. KISS ME ON MY NECK
5. BOOTY
6. DIDN'T CHA KNOW
7. I WANT YOU
8. DANGER
9. BACK IN THE DAY
10. TYRONE
11. DANGER
12. MASTER TEACHER
13. THINK TWICE
14. LOVE OF MY LIFE
I actually love them all but those were a few I kept on repeat. I would leave you all with more but I have to go get ready, HoLLa!!!

